I just wanted to share our story
in memory of our precious Skylar- Stillborn onFriday
April 13,2007 due to Triploidy...
In September of 2006, I took a home pregnancy test excited
to find that positive sign! We were so shocked at how
fast it happened! We lost two in early miscarriages
and then our daughter took over a year of trying! Not
this time it happened so fast- it was meant to be! Excited
and anxious to hear everything was okay we got into
the doctors right away...So far so good! Estimated due
day ofMay 26,2007. At 6weeks I started spotting and
was put on bed rest...off and on throughout I went on
and off of bed rest hoping to continue our pregnancy.
They called it a "missed-miscarriage". At
12 weeks, everything seemed to be back to "normal"...Finally
I can get my hopes up of bringing another baby home
with us! At 14/15 weeks I went for my monthly
visit and the doctor noticed that the baby was small
for the gestational age- but we knew for sure my due
date was right on... So he sent me to a level II specialist
in Toledo, Ohio for a better view. Off to Toledo
we went only to find in that ultrasound the following:
moderate ventriculomegaly, echogenic bowel, single umbilical
artery, and or our baby was measuring weeks behind.
Because I was so early and he was so small they couldn't
really tell if there was a heart defect. Our specialist
thought our baby had down syndrome but wanted to rule
out the chances of Trisomy 18 and Trisomy 13. He asked
if we wanted to do an amniocentesis...At first we were
like NO WAY, but we thought about it and wanted to be
able to line up the best resources for our baby
so we could be prepared for everything. We agreed- the
next morning(wed) we went in for the amnio- my amniotic
fluid was a "rootbeer"color which indicated
there was definitely something wrong. WOW THIS TEST
HURTS! I went into major cramping- they don't tell you
that! They sent the results in for a FISH test so we
would get the results back quicker. That night my water
broke!!! We didn't realize that just because your waters
breaks doesn't mean you go into labor! We went to the
ER and this little guy was still hanging on strong!
His heartbeat was stronger than ever, but I had no fluid
surrounding him. I was sent home and was told to follow
up with my OB. On Friday we went to see the OB and sure
enough I still had no fluid around the baby- they told
us that He would not survive the weekend and once again
I was sent home. That same day in the afternoon the
phone rang- the results of the FISH/amnio were in...Our
baby had none of which the doctors thought it was something
far worse- it was TRIPLOIDY- our doctor said its lethal-
its not compatible with life you need to terminate this
pregnancy..WOW!!!!!!!!!!! It was like I was in a dream
waiting to wake up only reality set in. There was NO
way that I could terminate my pregnancy..I felt as if
I would be giving up on my son, I would be murdering
him! We are such strong believers that GOD is the giver
of life and what GOD giveth he taketh away. What if
they were wrong? or what if GOD picked our son to be
a miracle?We decided to continue with the pregnancy.
We knew in our hearts that GOD would take our son when
he was ready. Over the next few months I went in weekly
for ultrasounds to check for fetal heart tones. I got
to watch our son grow and beat so many odds that were
against him. Tummy to hand is where we would always
At one point my fluid level reached a "normal"
level again and it was a good feeling knowing that he
now had a place to move around in. The fluid on his
brain at decreased to a "normal" level- things
were starting to look good for a change! We got to see
him opening and closing his mouth! I can still remember
that day when he reached 1lb. We were so excited because
we knew that he reached another mile marker!
Then on Thursday April 12,2007 at 33 weeks 5 days
I went in for my weekly visit- I knew in my heart that
my precious Skylar had gone to the mansions of mansions-
and I was right- The ultrasound screen was so still,
so peaceful.....there was no heartbeat and It was time
to say goodbye yet time to meet our precious son. Labor
was TERRIBLE! I had some complications on top of everything
else! He was breech, and I had a low lying placenta-
they only had an inch to work with- FINALLY onFriday
April 13,2007 at 10:39pm our precious SKYLAR MATTHEW
was brought into the world- He weighed 1lb 6oz.
and was 12 1/2" long. He was so precious!
He had Mommy's eyes! and they were wide open as if he
was there telling us that it would all be okay- We spent
several hours holding him, taking pictures of him in
the gown I made for him to be buried in. We had a funeral
service and it was beautiful. My pastor wrote a letter
titled Skylar's first letter home- it was wonderful!
At his grave we release balloons as a celebration of
his life. Big Sister Lexi always talks of him and colors
him pictures. She still prays every night for him to
get better. On my "sad" days she looks at
me and says as she wipes my tears away with a big
hug-" its okay mommy Jesus will take care
of him"....Sometimes you just know its GOD there
providing you with what you need to get through that
It turns out after all our Skylar was a miracle- we
feel as if he was a missionary sent from GOD- He has
helped us in so many ways- First leading Daddy to Christ,
then his Nana- and then Mommy and daddy were baptized
on Sunday April 29,2007. and we know he was there looking
down on us with a smiling face. We have learned to not
ask why but to put our trust in GOD...He is the only
one that can see you through.
We will always have a special place for our Skylar and
we will forever miss him- but we are forever thankful
for what he has lead us too.
Thank you for allowing me to share our story- I have
enclosed our family picture taken the day our son was
born.........I hope our story helps someone else
who may be going through something like this.
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